When Your Past Is Present

True or false? “You can’t change the past!”

This statement is made by many who have experienced painful things in their past. The pain may have been experienced in childhood, in a previous or current marriage, or in some other kind of relationship altogether. Analogous to the “Get-out-of-jail-free” card in Monopoly, this partly-true saying serves as a “Get-out-of-difficult-emotional-work” card for many walking wounded.

The statement is true in part, but not fully. That we cannot change the facts of the past is obvious. What happened – whatever happened – happened. We cannot undo what was done, no matter how desperately we might want to. The funds embezzled by the business partner and squandered on drugs are unrecoverable. The lover who left has not even looked back. The deceased loved one is gone. The fact that you were sexually violated is as irreversible as it is horrible. Indeed, we cannot change what happened.

We don’t live with the facts of damaging life-events alone. We carry away from those events some things that are not immutable. What do we carry away besides the facts? We walk away with our understanding or interpretation of the facts. We carry our conclusions about ourselves and others based on our – sometimes faulty – interpretation of our experiences. We also carry our decisions about how to live in light of our understanding of those facts. Recognizing this difference between the facts and our understanding of them and choices based on our misunderstanding of them is invaluable. The facts are immutable; but many things associated with the facts can be changed, and should be changed.

When we are unable to recognize the difference between the changeable and the unchangeable things, we are set up for one of two serious problems: unnecessary misery or unnecessary exhaustion. The famous Serenity Prayer addresses our situation eloquently: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Consider three essential issues in this prayer. First, we must find peace (serenity) regarding certain unchangeable things – things about which we desperately desire change. Indeed, we need God’s help (grace) to find that serene place of acceptance of what feels absolutely unacceptable. Second, we need courage (perhaps more accurately stated, God’s power released in us) to change even the changeable. Sometimes the “doable” is only done with the help of God and others. That which falls into the category of “changeable” is sometimes terribly difficult and/or frightening; thus, we need courage to do what must be done to effect the change desired. Finally, the prayer affirms our need for God’s wisdom to know the difference between these two – the changeable and the unchangeable. It is not obvious. Our minds can trick us; we can be deceived. We may imagine that we can change the “unchangeable” if only we try harder, manipulate more craftily, or beg more intensely. Of course, this results in our unnecessary exhaustion – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. On the other hand, when we file things in the “unchangeable” category which are in fact changeable, we can live many years in misery unnecessarily, and even with unnecessary levels of misery. If only we had realized that courage and effort would have paid off in time… This prayer for “wisdom to know the difference,” prayed until it is fully answered, can keep us from unnecessary misery or unnecessary exhaustion.

We can agree that the facts of the past cannot be changed. What then can be changed? Sandra Wilson, in her excellent book Hurt People Hurt People, identifies four things that can and must be changed, if I am to be changed. They are:

1. My perceptions of my experiences.
2. My conclusions about my experiences.
3. My choices in response to my experiences.
4. The life patterns I have formed as a result of my experiences.

All of these are indeed changeable, but not necessarily obviously changeable, nor easily changed, and rarely changed over-night.

Much of the family dysfunction in our culture is rooted in these very issues. Wounded people, instead of finding healing, pretend to be well. It may not be too difficult to keep up the pretense in public, but at home we are found out. We are not as well as we want people to think.

If you’ve had painful experiences in the past, and you’ve concluded, “nothing can be done about it,” please consider this “second opinion.” If an honest assessment of your life indicates that your past is showing up in the present, seek the help needed. If disproportionate anger, distrust, suspicion, or defensiveness is evident in present relationships, this may be a sign that your past is pathologically present.

You can “be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2). This is true Christianity. Jesus accepts us just as we are, but He never intended that we stay just as we are. He wants to transform us. And the “Good News” of His Gospel is that no one is so badly broken as to be beyond the power of His change; and conversely, no one is so good as to be beyond need of it. Not only will you benefit in this transformation Jesus will bring to you, but those closest to you will be blessed, too. You will probably need help in this transformation – help from books, lectures, and specific relationships. Seek until you find all the resources God has for you.

If you would consider a professional counseling relationship, you might provide a potential helper with a copy of this article. Request that he or she read it and tell you if they think they could help you sort out these issues and effect change in your life. Finally, don’t resist investing money in this process. Most of us readily invest money in education to make a better living; too few invest in counseling to make a better life. Proverbs 4:7 says, “Though it cost all you have, get wisdom, get understanding.” Even in this point – especially in this point, I would encourage prayerful wisdom in making such investments. Invite God to lead you to put the past in the past.

Simple Method to Connect Global Audience With Magento 2 Mobile App Builder

It’s more important than ever to identify your ideal customer by using relevant and effective methods for getting in touch with them. It’s important to know who you’re trying to reach when developing a mobile app. Also, it will have an impact on its functionality, user experience, and even how much money it makes you. The Magento 2 Mobile App Builder by Knowband consists of all the important features that are required to connect with a global audience.

If you take the time to precisely determine your target demographic, your Magento 2 Mobile App will expand more rapidly. You can gather data and search for trends in behavior to improve your targeting even more.

Methods for Identifying Your Ideal Customer
1. Conduct market research to determine your target audience. To get a sense of what your competitors are doing well and what they are doing terribly, you can look at their websites. By analyzing the pain points of your competitors, you can better understand what makes your mobile app special. The Magento 2 Mobile App Maker consists of several features that will help you out while performing market research.

2. As part of your research, you should also check into your competitor’s product and see how they’re using this information to target customers. In addition to their social media presence, this includes their in-app customer service. People who use the Magento 2 Mobile App Builder can share your products with their friends on social media.

3. Analyze your target market’s demographics. Market research and data analysis can help you identify the demographics and interests of your target audience. Once you’ve figured out your target audience, you’ll need to create user personas to better understand their habits and preferences. The Magento 2 Mobile App Creator can also help you out with converting the mobile apps into a different language.

4. The amount of time and money people spend on their mobile apps may be influenced by a variety of variables, such as where they live, their age, and their income. With this approach, you can target your audience and interact with them in a way that is meaningful to them. Instead, you can utilize user personas to identify and map the typical user journeys of various types of customers. The Magento 2 Mobile App Builder consists of multiple payment and shipping options that make your payment journey easier.

5. Engaging with your audience and customer feedback can also help you enhance your product and marketing strategy. Users’ opinions on your app can be gathered through social media. The Magento 2 Mobile App has a feedback option so that your app’s users can make suggestions and say what they don’t like.

Ready For Your Big C-Level Presentation Tomorrow?

It’s ’round midnight. You have to present to the CEO. Have you been putting this off? No clue what to say. No idea where to begin. Don’t worry…use this 8-step plan to get past confusion and get ready.

It’s tough to figure it out when you’re staring at the blinking cursor. Getting confusing advice. Too busy to start over from scratch. Too tired to feel creative. No clue how to win attention.

And the stakes are high!

I’ve seen this in myself and in thousands of professionals.

No wonder so many people say…

“I hate presenting!”

What can you do to get to a whole new level, fast?

Use this instant makeover plan to deal with the reality: you will be standing in front of C-level executives tomorrow.

Step 1. Focus On Solutions

Use your whole brain to solve problems and focus on solutions.

“Successful solutions are based on the powerful principle that resolution occurs by fostering the positive, not by attacking the negative… One basic principle has the power to resolve problems: Support the solution instead of attacking the suppose causes…. The way to finesse a high-energy solution is to seek the answer that will make all sides happy and still be practical. Such solutions involve utilization of both the tolerant right brain as well as the judgmental left brain.”
- David Hawkins, from “Power Vs. Force”

While this may seem like a big bite to take, go ahead. Your brain can handle the challenge. Support the solution.

Step 2. Plan Your Story
Use your imaginative power to build a story that explains your solution step by step. If you have a moment, use a storyboard. It’s a visual representation of each part of a story-so you don’t have to reinvent the wheel in order to build your persuasive story.

Step 3. Choose Pictures
Think about the pictures, photos, charts and maps that will speak directly to your audience. Take time to carefully think through what visual material is best for the environment, the participants, and the story you are communicating.

In other words, don’t just grab what’s handy. Think this through. Your visual depictions can make or break your success.

Step 4. Connect The Dots
Like a master weaver, show the tread connecting the solution, the story, the visuals and the desired outcomes. Focus on connection, purpose and performance.

While you are connecting the dots, be sure to think about another dimension: interaction.

Step 5. Invite Discussion
Plan for interaction and discussion. This is a way to satisfy the desire of participants to speak, share insights and contribute to a positive solution. Some of the responses may be supportive. Others may be challenging, questioning feasibility, practicality, costs and resources.

Step 6. Welcome Objections
It’s often said that ‘selling’ does not start until objections are surfaced. It is infinitely better to have C-level decision makers tell you their objections, than to have them not reveal objections. If you know what the objections are, you have the opportunity to respond.

One of the best ways to ignite this is to give examples of objections that others have cited. This seems counter intuitive, right? In fact, it is a sign of confidence and strength. You have to be supremely confident in your ability to welcome and address objections if you’re going to bring them up.

Step 7. Reinforce Solutions
Reinforce your key points. This does not have to be dull, boring or obviously repetitive. Give examples. Tell stories. Ask for input. Use reflections. Weave a solid fabric that offers attractive solutions that your clients want.

Step 8. Practice Like Crazy
Yes, your big day is tomorrow. But that doesn’t mean you don’t have time to practice. Try out every single aspect of your presentation. Work out the kinks. Smooth out your responses. Get feedback from peers.

Practice is considered the ‘mother of skill.’ Which means, the more you practice, the more skillful you’ll be for your big presentation.

There you have it. A cheat sheet for your remarkable presentation.

Go out and make it count!